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Psychological Manipulation at Home or at Work : are you being Played ?
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“Do you feel something’s “off” in a key relationship ?
That you’re being controlled, pressured to do things you don’t want to do – or to do them in a certain way ?
Or you’re doubting & questioning yourself a lot more than you used to ?
Chances are someone is pulling your strings & not with good intent either !
Psychological manipulation is when Mind Games are used to control a relationship.
There’s a secondary goal, too : to undermine, confuse & bring down the targeted person.
These tactics sit at the core of Emotionally Abusive relationships & of Bullying behaviour. ”
People pleasing Love relationship

If you want a Real Relationship, Stop being a People-Pleaser
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“People-pleasing is about manipulation & deception, and it’s not healthy in any relationship.
People-pleasing is extremely damaging because it’s based in dishonesty.
In turn, it hampers true intimacy.
The clinical term is sociotropy. Sociotropy is defined as “a person’s tendency to place an inordinate value on relationships over personal independence that will leave them vulnerable to depression in the response to a loss of relationships.”
People-pleasers usually have an underlying self-esteem/self-worth issue that makes them feel the need to hide their beliefs & feelings from others,
or assume they are “not worthy” enough to be shared.
They frequently say Yes when they should say No.
They try to avoid conflict as much as possible because they don’t want to/don’t like to deal with the uncomfortable feelings of others.
They can also often be great chameleons, blending into any social environ.
Lastly, they will go to great lengths to keep others happy, which usually means they resort to dishonesty & deception.
People-pleasing was one of my many survival tools growing up.
“People-pleasers have a history of maltreatment & somewhere along the way, they decided that their best hope for better treatment was to try to please the people who mistreated them.”
Being serious in love, or not

They’re not Serious about You and this is How you can tell
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” No matter how much we love someone, it cannot forever blind us to the harsh realities of our relationships.
It’s up to us to identify the warning signs & then take the necessary action that’s needed to protect our happiness & wellbeing.
We deserve to have a love that is stable, equitable & without radical conditions.
Though someone might promise this to us, their actions can speak dramatically different things when they refuse to show up for us, or share their lives with us.
Addressing the doubts we have takes courage, but it also requires some introspection.
Before we approach someone about their feelings for us, we need to make sure we realize the full truth of our feelings for them.
Letting someone down or ending things is never easy,
so some partners will happily carry on in a lie in order to avoid the inevitable discomfort.
Whether your partner is truly serious about you or not,
it’s important that you address your doubts with them & get to the root of the truth.
You cannot build a happy or stable relationship on a shaky foundation.
Brace yourself & take action to find the truth.
Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with this person,
or are they the one you pictured spending forever with ?
Question how you truly feel about your relationship & compare it against what you really want for your eternity, before you put in more effort that you need to. ”
Romantic Relationship

One thing you cannot change in Relationships
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” “Every next level of your life will demand a different you.”
How much did you change the last ten years?
Do not think about your outward appearance, your job or your home.
Think about your personality, preferences & values.
You know your partner better after 5 years of relationship than after only 1 year.
However, it will be always impossible for you tell how your partner will change in the next 5 years, no matter how long you are already living together.
The risk will always be there, even if you are together for over 20 years.
Who can ensure that you still fit together?
So, in my position it is not about how long I am already in a relationship with my girlfriend. It is about if she is worth it to take the risk (yes she is).
Life will always be about taking risks. You cannot live without risks.
But you have to be sure. Don’t be naive. You have to be sure that he or she loves you too & that this person is ready to take the same risk.
When you ask people what is really important in relationships they will tell you following words:
Trust, Honesty, Respect, Communication, Loyalty & Safety.
I completely agree. All those values are important for a good relationship but you will basically never have 100 % Safety. It is an illusion.
Real love makes people taking risk they were afraid of. It makes us leaving our comfort zone.
And this is beautiful about love. It helps us to forget what can happen in the worst case & puts our focus on the bright side of life. ”